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Consensual nonconsent cannot exist without its first word: “consensual.” It involves erotic play partners coming together and agreeing to the confines of a play space, then rolling the dice and seeing what happens. It’s no different than a bunch of people agreeing to play “tag”: everyone agrees one person is “It,” and everyone who is not “It” tries to avoid being tagged. You might become “It” without particularly consenting to getting tagged, but you consented to the rules and the play space that could lead to you getting tagged as “It.” That’s what makes “tag” so fun: the risk of getting tagged, and the thrill that comes with tagging another person.
Like all games, CNC is fun because it’s play, not in spite of it.
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Special thanks to Louise Ashley Yeo Payne for your generous Sex-Haver contribution.
